The women of today are emerging as independent, bold, and strong leaders within their communities.
According to Sophia Amoruso’s book, #GIRLBOSS, a Girlboss is a confident woman who hustles smartly for success. They get things done through persistence and determination, influencing other female entrepreneurs as well to challenge the norm.
But what does it take to become a Girlboss? Alyssa Coleman is a creative entrepreneur, productivity guru, leader of the #freedomrebellion, and an inspiration for all of us at Romantic Rebelle. She’s one of our favorite girl leaders running fiercely on social media today. As an influencer, she encourages other women entrepreneurs to run the world and become their own Girlbosses. We asked her some questions about being a real Girlboss and share her wisdom with our Tribe.
For Alyssa, a Girlboss is someone who is changing the landscape of modern entrepreneurship. Today, more and more women are looking to do things differently and rising to positions of power. There is less cut-throat competition and more triple bottom lines. Girlbosses are using their influence to urge a change in the world at a rate we haven’t seen.
Alyssa is a perfect example of a Girlboss who has fully stepped up the game. She uses her role as an entrepreneur to effect change. She promotes the freedom rebellion because she believes that a lot of women grew up thinking we had to “hustle” 24/7 to be like the bigtime successful CEOs, many of whom were men. Alyssa has paved the path for more Girlbosses who want a better way to live their life and run the business without sacrificing our independence.
Success looks different for everyone. According to Alyssa, it takes a lot of introspection and self-awareness to figure out what your definition of success is and that’s the key. Do you want to become a CEO and run major boardroom meetings while working 9-to-5? Or do you want to make $80,000 a year and take 3 months off to live in Bali?
As soon as you figure out your own definition and stop looking at other people’s, you’ll start feeling more fulfilled on the journey to success. Having a clear definition will help you set goals and work smartly towards those goals. Don’t worry about doing everything perfectly and investing as much time as possible to polish a thing. Instead, focus on increasing your productivity levels.
For Alyssa, success looks like building and running a thriving company, making an impact on women around the globe, and being able to work from anywhere in the world. “Maybe a coffee shop in Italy next month?” she adds. She has also determined the specific and measurable goals that are necessary to achieve her idea of success. She’s able to hustle smartly by planning out a schedule and sticking to it.
To be able to accomplish something, you have to take the first step. We are one with Alyssa in saying that setting your goals is an important step in the process. Productivity is all about figuring out where you exactly want to be and then planning the most direct route to get there. If you’re not super clear about what you want to achieve, then you might get distracted along the way. Be careful of putting all your energy into trying to be that boardroom CEO without being productive!
The next important step in achieving success is to learn and be comfortable with collaboration. At first, it may seem difficult to step out of your comfort zone. But Alyssa remarks that once she started surrounding herself with others who wanted similar things, her success skyrocketed. Not only is your network incredible for opening up new doors but it’s also really important for your inner peace and mental health:
“Sometimes people still look at me like I have three heads when I describe what I do, so surrounding myself with people who get it and are already looking to the future of the industry is extremely motivating and inspiring. PLUS, we get to explore cute coffee shops together.”
On social media platforms, faith in what you’re sharing as well as confidently sharing it with the community is very important. Alyssa doesn’t try too hard to portray any specific image. Instead, she just tries to be transparent about what it’s genuinely like for women to run a business today. She openly shares what’s happening in her life and at work.
“I’m personally pretty sick of looking at glossy pics of perfect people – I like watching people who get on Instagram when they look hot AND when they are having a meltdown.” This authentic attitude just makes us like Alyssa more.
Much of what we share on social reflects on our personal brands so you should share what really resonates with you. If you’re really passionate about a certain aspect of your work, you can share that. At the same time, when you’re having a major fail (and this happens often) you can share that too. It is important to grow together with your community when you want to establish a special connection with them via social media.
According to Alyssa, fashion and making your own style statement is important. It’s an expression of the way we see the world. What you wear is a great way for your audience to understand you a little more. The way you dress can help with your attitude if you’re confident in your outfit. If you demand their attention, most people are willing to give it to you.
Alyssa noticed this the most while giving her leadership talks. “If I look like a BOSS then I always feel more confident and powerful on stage and it shows.”
She prefers simple and practical pieces but definitely adores pure gold. She likes handy bags in which she can carry a laptop and a water bottle while still looking glam. Alyssa isn’t the type to change accessories with every outfit. She likes things which she can bring to work from a coffee shop, but also look good enough for hanging out with friends afterward.
In terms of outfits, she dresses pretty casually. “I like bohemian dresses and flowy shirts that make me feel feminine.” She especially likes wearing femme dresses while she works to keep her mindful of her flow when hustling.
A Girlboss works hard but also knows when to a break. For Alyssa, productivity is the most important thing when trying to establish a work-life balance. Time management is the key. She strongly believes in making the most out of the time that you’re working so you have more time to be creative and to play.
As an entrepreneur, she has to often tap into her creativity while making sure that she doesn’t run out of it. Taking vacations four times a year isn’t helpful. You have to learn how to recharge your battery every day and ensure that your work keeps you motivated enough. Alyssa likes to turn off her masculine side every now and then (every strong, independent woman has this side) and do more things that are “feminine” (energy-wise).
“Sometimes, I close my laptop, meditate a little, sometimes I dance or go for a walk outside, or make a smoothie, light some sage or a candle and then focus everything on being creative and inspired.”
One of the challenges of being an entrepreneur is setting a clear boundary between work life and personal life. “It’s never simple but you have to try anyway,” says Alyssa. Hanging out with friends and family, keeping her hands off her mobile phone, and doing yoga are some of the things she does to turn off her entrepreneur-mind. She has found it incredibly helpful to spend time alone whenever you need to just pause, reset, and recover.
Alyssa’s says the best tip she ever got was “just be yourself”. It may sound like some lame dating advice but she realized that it was very relevant for the period of time that we’re in.
“We’re all personal brands whether we believe it or not. The more you lean into what makes you YOU, the more likely you are to land opportunities that are suitable for you, partner up with other people who you get along with, and get the work that you feel you deserve.”
Hope this article helped you understand what goes into being a Girlboss and how you can claim and own that title.
Do you know anyone looking to become a Girlboss in 2019?
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