Halloween is upon us: a time for costume parties, trick or treating, haunted hayrides, and confectionery sweets.
This is also a great time to tweak your mindset and self-confidence. It might seem scary and impossible, with so much temptation in the air. Yet, you really can have it all! Here’s how...
You may have heard of imposter syndrome, a series of feelings of inadequacy and fraud. It is the belief that we are not equipped or worthy of being successful, even if our business success proves otherwise.
Seeking professional guidance and therapy can help overcome this syndrome. This is a recommended and effective way to address misplaced feelings and define a path back to emotional health. It is equally important to create a strong support network of friends and family who will be there to bolster your spirits when self-doubt shows up.
This is also an opportunity to have a little fun while facing things head-on. One of the most enjoyable activities at Halloween is donning a costume and stepping outside ourselves for a day. We have a chance to be anyone or anything we want.
This is one activity you can leverage for your own good!
In the days following Halloween, take those pictures out and take an objective look at yourself.
Take in all the little details of the amazing transformation you just went through. Relive the fun you had as you did your photoshoot.
Ask yourself this - Did you feel like an imposter?
I’m going to bet that the answer is No. You were not an imposter. You were 100% who you set out to be in that moment -- Astronaut, Cleopatra, Flapper. You researched your character, created an authentic costume, and brought your alter-ego to life. Success!
This realization should be a revelation for you, and it totally relates to your professional anxiety. If you were able to define and achieve genuine success with a Halloween costume, certainly you would be able to do the same in your career.
Let’s take a look at those steps again, and see how they apply...
Have you defined the career path, product, or service you intend to provide?
Did you do the necessary research to learn the science behind the art? Did you take
classes, read articles and speak with established professionals so that you could ensure
you were doing the right things in the right way?
Did you pull the pieces together carefully and thoughtfully, so that your offering was
released as a complete thought?
Once complete, did you do a review for accuracy, voice and quality?
Lastly, did you share your accomplishments with your family and friends and get their thoughts and feedback?
Assuming you said Yes to each of these questions... Not only have you followed a deliberate path to bring your career, business or products to life, but you also have executed flawlessly. You are not an imposter. You are someone who follows through and has earned every bit of your success through hard work and determination. Congratulate yourself!
Fear Not. If you said Yes to some of the questions but not all, you too are a success story. You just have some additional work ahead of you that will improve your offerings and enhance your success. This is your opportunity to adjust those things that may need adjusting, and remind yourself that this life is built on a journey of continuous learning. Celebrate the lessons that are coming your way!
As we close this suspenseful tale of intrigue and masquerade, I encourage you to go forth, enjoy your Halloween, and let its lessons light up your path towards the future.
Let the Spirit move you.
Treat yourself to daily moments of positive reinforcement.
And remember... You are not an Imposter. You are Amazing.
By Virna Cothrin, Business Consultant & Leadership Coach at Colibri Blue Group
Virna Cothrin, MBA, is the founding Principal of Colibri Blue Group, a management consulting and executive coaching firm based in New Jersey. With more than 15 years of experience leading cross-organizational, highly collaborative teams that span the globe, she specializes in the strategic planning and delivery of global innovation programs in the healthcare, human capital and education sectors. Her true passion is helping startup organizations, business leaders, and corporate teams define and achieve operational success. Virna partners with her clients to assess their operations, identify areas of opportunity, develop growth strategies, and execute efficiently and effectively.